the boyfriend tag.

Someone once told me that, life is about being able to make sacrifices for the ones you care about. Obviously, including the idea of being happy in your own life but to be able to make room for others, making sure that your happiness includes making those you care about happy as well. It’s much easier said then done but if you think about it, makes sense.  It’s kinda like Christmas, when your excited to receive a gift but much happier when you see the reaction of the person that just opened the gift you got them.  This idea is much simplified, but if you’ve ever had to give up a day off to help out another deal with a problem and end up solving the problem. The appreciation you get back makes the time spent totally worth it. 

It can get difficult sometimes to stand up for what you believe in, to be honest and open about your own thoughts and opinions. Especially when you want to part of a group, please the majority, and wanting to avoid being the odd man out. At the same time, forgoing who you are can be selling out, telling others it’s okay to give up and that it’s good to be like everyone else.  Being you and being comfortable in your own skin and thoughts is admirable. And showing others who your are and what your beliefs are is admirable. Don’t spend your energy on being someone else, following what others say. Do what’s best for you. Really, it’s about choosing your battles. Fight only when you NEED to, not because you want to.  Remember, it’s a good thing to stand out.

When you enter a new task most people have a mind set that leads them to believe they can accomplish what they had in envisioned. Then when you start the task, you come across some challenges, initially your okay with it, you get through it and you continue. But when challenge after challenge arise, it gets to a point when you start to doubt your abilities to finish the task you set out to do. The thing is, if you decide to give up so easily, what makes you think your next move will end any different? I don’t believe that life was meant to be easy. Everyone has gone through tough times and in the end, ultimately it made you a stronger person. If you have a goal in mind, finish it. Find the motivation to keep going, have people in your lives that will support you and believe me, it will be worth the trouble.  Having a positive outlook takes work. If it’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s a hell of a lot easier to think negatively, to complain, and to blame. But you have to remember, this is your life and the only person to make a difference in it, is you. If you failed the first time, try harder and then try again.

It’s easy to get caught up in communicating via texting. Mind you, technology has made it easy to converse on a quick and high demand sense but don’t forget the intimacy of face to face communication as well as talking over the phone. The problem with texting is that you lose affinity for tone and thus can come across distant and this miscommunication can lead to unnecessary conflict.  It’s nice to text the odd, quick, need to know information ( ie. What are you up to?, I miss you) but take the time to really have an actual conversation. You can get a lot more out of it, people respond better to it and will appreciate the effort. 

It’s easy to get engulfed in your new relationship. Focusing your time and energy on you and your beau, going out, having meals together, just being in the moment. It’s easy to neglect the other aspects of your life. Especially the other people involved in your life, like friends and family. I think the easiest way to avoid this is to incorporate those people into your lives by inviting them to join you. Spend a day with your best friend and your beau, or just set a date with just you and your sibling. It’s important to maintain a social life outside of your romantic relationship, even if it is just for a couple of hours.